tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post3947809911617998631..comments2023-06-01T06:18:53.975-07:00Comments on Narcissism Support Resources: Surviving Emotional AbuseAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14330003648158273927noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-2999480413641523102016-06-13T23:12:47.595-07:002016-06-13T23:12:47.595-07:00I hope you found peace, I hope you got out and tha...I hope you found peace, I hope you got out and that you spread your wings wide to the sun. For my own sake, with 3 young children and a micro-homestead, I hope I get out before 40 years. I keep making excuses to.stay, and time won't wait for me..aoxomoxoahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09107909447929568562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-57285912565717655892014-12-03T21:17:49.433-08:002014-12-03T21:17:49.433-08:00Ive purchased over 30 books that attack all views ...Ive purchased over 30 books that attack all views and explanations of why he is the way he is. Fact is after 22 years. Last 17 married. He will never change. He has such a cute smile and glimmer in his eye. But it took a long time for me to realize that is part of the bait. Ive been abused sexually, physically, emotionally and more. I didnt know when enough was going to be enough. I didnt Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-32626094826709239522014-09-25T19:33:55.483-07:002014-09-25T19:33:55.483-07:00I'm in this now but I'm not weak I let it ...I'm in this now but I'm not weak I let it all go over my head and have enough rest to fight on, he is 13 years older than me and military and very good at this he makes me feel so worthless at times. With but my son makes me feel amazing as that is pure love in his eyes for me I'm a loyal and respectful and tried to do the right thing on telling him I'm leaving and got brain Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-6624961814263646462013-03-04T07:20:03.827-08:002013-03-04T07:20:03.827-08:00I am at a critical point in my relation with a nar...I am at a critical point in my relation with a narcissistic husband. Now discouraged to a point where I have no more energy to apply survial tactics I find a hint of hope by reading your articles and comments that remind me that I am not alone. The few loved ones that remain by my side, unfortunately do not understand the deviousness a narcissist is capable of. They stand beside me, not Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-40158208150303832012-11-17T18:41:45.867-08:002012-11-17T18:41:45.867-08:00I am in your EXACT position. I found out a year ag...I am in your EXACT position. I found out a year ago (2 days prior to our 10th anniversary) that my "husband" had as he admitted an emotional affair with a high school ex girl friend. It turns out, it was much more. I left with our two children, one being a daughter just months old, and have spent the year revealing his lies, one by one. His mistress's husband provided emails that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-2030453251764382012012-09-05T09:19:03.673-07:002012-09-05T09:19:03.673-07:00To July 4th,2012
The way you let go is to understa...To July 4th,2012<br />The way you let go is to understand that he will do to his next victim exactly what he did to you. He will make her feel exactly the way he made you feel in the beginning. He will make her feel special, cared for, wonderful and loved as never before. Then, just like you he will rip her to shreads, and she will feel just like you. Repeat this in your mind and you will VEvilnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-64310594064615625442012-08-24T08:01:45.815-07:002012-08-24T08:01:45.815-07:00This is THE best website on this topic. Hands down...This is THE best website on this topic. Hands down. I'm so grateful for your work and that you opened this forum. <br /><br />I am going through a split with my husband - an uber narcissist frankly. All along I just found him to have a big and charming (albeit fully selfish and self-centered) personality. After courting me relentlessly for 4 years - we got married and started a family. The Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-26834544793131314722012-08-22T13:06:00.288-07:002012-08-22T13:06:00.288-07:00My brother is married to a female narcissist. He h...My brother is married to a female narcissist. He has gone from a very strong individual to being almost an empty shell of himself. They have 2 kids together. She has convinced him that they cannot separate because it would be giving up on their family (he has very strong moral values). Our family has done all that we can to protect him and we have pushed him to get a little distance for the sake Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-86162344241366374522012-07-15T18:23:22.778-07:002012-07-15T18:23:22.778-07:00Give yourself time. I was in a 7 year relationship...Give yourself time. I was in a 7 year relationship(married for 5) to a narcissistic sex addict. It was so bad that he would even manipulate his therapist. It got violent to the point that my life was in danger. Not every person who has been in a relationship with an N has the same experience but from what I've learned, narcissists make you believe that you need them, that you are worthless Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-33062364342601479732012-07-04T05:50:36.149-07:002012-07-04T05:50:36.149-07:00I recently have been entangled with someone I beli...I recently have been entangled with someone I believe has strong narcissistic traits. It was a worldwind romance, purposed within months, moved into my life immediatly and married within a year... yes there were many red flags that I chose to ignore, because I have never felt so loved, I was his everything, and as a person who has spent my life putting everyone else first, it was refreshing to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-35340691020921526552012-04-07T18:42:04.085-07:002012-04-07T18:42:04.085-07:00I just can=me across this. having suffered both e...I just can=me across this. having suffered both emotional and physical abuse on separate occasions I know first hand how it feels. Blaming someone else just means you hold onto the hurt longer whereas letting go, gives up any attachment. My preference is to give up any attachment. Self help does work. It makes you focus on you rather than the abuser. It doesn't take away the blame from Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-65905349993913959592011-10-30T14:18:35.268-07:002011-10-30T14:18:35.268-07:00I Was married to my N for almost seven years. Sinc...I Was married to my N for almost seven years. Since our divorce, less than a year ago, I have been in therapy for several months now, and I actually feel like my therapist wants me to blame myself. She continually asks me about abuse as a child and what had me set up for a predator to target. There is nothing to it. I was a fairly normal child, and grew to be a fairly well rounded adult. I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-8339618108574361702011-10-12T09:52:23.029-07:002011-10-12T09:52:23.029-07:00So how can we educate people around us about the d...So how can we educate people around us about the destructiveness of making it about the prey and holding her or him 50% responsible?<br /><br />For most of my adult life I have escaped predatorial types who are NPD, BPD, or APD. However, I fell into 3 situations over the last 2 years where I was prey to this--ONLY because of financial instability. <br /><br />In each of those 3 times I clearly Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-11224206970168131212011-07-25T11:52:12.181-07:002011-07-25T11:52:12.181-07:00I could totally relate to the part about contrdict...I could totally relate to the part about contrdictions. I will grow spiritually as I re-ground. I feel much better already without that horrid dissonance caused by trying to believe his elaborate and changable lies. I'm happier than I've been in a long time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-33138988732391232492011-06-22T05:41:26.735-07:002011-06-22T05:41:26.735-07:00Thank you so much. I have been trying to get some ...Thank you so much. I have been trying to get some help and information that is not all about the spirit and soul. Abuse is terrible and I need to know how to fix my head and my heart not my internal spirit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-73762137368137095452010-08-06T16:10:48.141-07:002010-08-06T16:10:48.141-07:00Easier said than done.
Denial is a very strong fo...Easier said than done. <br />Denial is a very strong force.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-66138519918773570162010-07-01T07:28:36.016-07:002010-07-01T07:28:36.016-07:0040 years, 3 grown children with 4 kidney transplan...40 years, 3 grown children with 4 kidney transplants, a farm, a photography busines... often too busy, too broken, to be able to get out. I'm trying to get out,cathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-67555773584823048902009-12-19T11:04:13.641-08:002009-12-19T11:04:13.641-08:00Thanks for this terrific blog. I'm also a mal...Thanks for this terrific blog. I'm also a male, whose narcissistic wife left me this fall after she apparently felt that she got out of me all that she could (if it was possible, I did it for her -- my mistake), so she's moved on and found other people to sponge off of. Yes, she is the bad person and has treated me like an object to be used all these years without giving anything back Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-49519709242405147362009-11-07T00:07:21.943-08:002009-11-07T00:07:21.943-08:00Regardless of a male or female abuser this article...Regardless of a male or female abuser this article is correct. I am also going through this right now in my life and although yes I am trying to learn to recognize in myself that ability to deny what is right in front of my face, it IS the other person who is responsible for thier own actions towards me. The blame DOES rest on their shoulders. THEY abused ME. I didn't do it. THEY did. My onlyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-53669790103441423322009-10-29T15:15:38.755-07:002009-10-29T15:15:38.755-07:00True, Matt, my narcissist is a womanTrue, Matt, my narcissist is a womanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-28448636853599314532009-10-21T03:16:50.025-07:002009-10-21T03:16:50.025-07:00I'm sorry, but why are you assuming the abuser...I'm sorry, but why are you assuming the abuser is male? When it comes to emotional abuse, women are just as bad as men. Physical abuse, no, men do more of that.Matt Bentleyhttp://www.soulstudios.co.nznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-16501138459227013152009-08-16T15:51:55.029-07:002009-08-16T15:51:55.029-07:00I am in the middle of this right now and I am in s...I am in the middle of this right now and I am in so much pain... thank you for helping me understand, I thought I was going crazy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-88767201197582733432009-06-09T05:07:45.602-07:002009-06-09T05:07:45.602-07:00This is the first thing I have ever read on this s...This is the first thing I have ever read on this subject that has made sense! Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com