tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post5708462231123802514..comments2023-06-01T06:18:53.975-07:00Comments on Narcissism Support Resources: A Soul With No FootprintsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14330003648158273927noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-60923085398267534802014-09-17T12:19:39.627-07:002014-09-17T12:19:39.627-07:00Hi..yes how can we blame ourselves of the hell mas...Hi..yes how can we blame ourselves of the hell masterminded by our so called love one? My ex was very clever, very smart to pull the blinders and shit he pulled to deceive and betray and lie! Yes we have the problem of being naive, trusting, loyal, sympathetic, forgiving..love unconditionally! There's our blame!! Sorry..still hurting. One thing I know thus far..."I didn't Love Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-86902150813444945842013-03-19T11:33:57.039-07:002013-03-19T11:33:57.039-07:00Hope, part 2:
Invicta responded to a comment by...Hope, part 2: <br /><br />Invicta responded to a comment by writing: “Those of us especially who grew up in abusive environments need to recognise that our life's work is repairing ourselves and taking care of ourselves. We must become number one when it comes to safety in the face of triggers and danger… No matter how much you desire to help a friend, the fact is that if you are vulnerableAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-31061242177393984532013-03-19T11:33:28.202-07:002013-03-19T11:33:28.202-07:00My name is Hope (I am posting as anonymous because...My name is Hope (I am posting as anonymous because the other options seem that they will disclose my identity, but I will call myself "Hope" because that is what I have).<br /><br />Part 1: I've known that my mom is a narcissist for over 10 years and did a lot of research and healing around it when I realized her disorder. (My ex of 15 years is also N, but right now I'm Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-18719220431782352792013-03-04T12:55:32.633-08:002013-03-04T12:55:32.633-08:00it's not about us.we were chose as a target of...it's not about us.we were chose as a target of a predator. whew, the clarity i needed. no more than a child had anything to do with being raped by a pedophile are we to hold any idea that who we are has anything to do with being soul raped by a n other than to give us the conformation of the value of who we are is in need of protection from the souls with no footprints who hunt us down to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-90794984182800317232013-02-24T00:08:02.551-08:002013-02-24T00:08:02.551-08:00to finely shredded: I am empathize with your pain...to finely shredded: I am empathize with your pain as I am sure most ppl. on this site can. Don't give up. Be brave, be strong, and be persistent in accessing the support you need via social services, churches, hospitals, and shelters. If those fail, make some noise so people stop and take notice. If your children are adults, call them. There are times when grown children are in a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-42451951575200872832013-02-13T13:38:48.363-08:002013-02-13T13:38:48.363-08:00I am left with a pulse, everything is gone, not ev...I am left with a pulse, everything is gone, not even a photo. I nursed my nsp mum, till I found her body, I was just a slave. No one came, to help me none of 28 people arrived 2 share my pain. They went 2 my sisters and began boozing. My man of nearly 8 life sucking yrs, was in rehab, 2 recover, and rebuild our shattered mess of losing everything I had aqiured as much as a single mum of 3 could finely shredded.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18010108912582767252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-81836030810109159772013-01-28T23:16:30.759-08:002013-01-28T23:16:30.759-08:00Twenty-five years with my N, though not living wit...Twenty-five years with my N, though not living with him the last five, he kept stringing me along until I did the unforgivable and chose to help my daughter through a difficult pregnancy rather than follow his advice to wait and see what happened. Didn't know what I was dealing with until then, but told a friend who is a therapist about it and she said it sounded like he was NPD. Starting Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-47017279636876408342013-01-15T19:41:37.656-08:002013-01-15T19:41:37.656-08:00I am just waking up from a 16 year "relations...I am just waking up from a 16 year "relationship" with an N ..I am so glad to find this support, my life had to crash and burn all around me before I finally see the extreme abuse I had been accepting as normal for years .It is still a bit surreal. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-55336925915918085252012-11-29T16:34:57.335-08:002012-11-29T16:34:57.335-08:00Wonderful site. Thanks many times over.
I have be...Wonderful site. Thanks many times over.<br />I have been married to my N wife for too many years. Working on my escape plan.<br /><br />Here are the affirmations that help me each day:<br />-I am OK<br />-I am not crazy<br />-I am worthy of happiness<br />-I am responsible for living my life well<br />-I am strong<br />-I am smart<br />-I am on my way<br /><br />Best of luck to all living in a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-8500568661197937102012-10-21T23:18:48.159-07:002012-10-21T23:18:48.159-07:00Why do we turn our bullshit meters off? and ignore...Why do we turn our bullshit meters off? and ignore those red flags. I mourn the past. But not the relationship...from reliving past events I know it was never there. IT WAS NEVER EVEN THERE. Doh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-75152673285220913932012-10-21T23:11:36.227-07:002012-10-21T23:11:36.227-07:00I guess this led to a Huge aha moment!...as I real...I guess this led to a Huge aha moment!...as I realised that I had been confusing the feeling of love towards my husband with the need for love. Thats actually what I came here to say because I'd been puzzling over it. Like the women on this forum I'd been struggling with leaving because I thought I loved him. But its just a confusion of feelings...through the years I have wanted him to beAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-54242840870258212872012-10-21T23:09:20.218-07:002012-10-21T23:09:20.218-07:00I am healing...and last night I was ready to revis...I am healing...and last night I was ready to revisit the past...except this time I did it by looking at the events in my life like I was a fly on the wall. I thought I had suppressed a lot, but when I started thinking in this way a lot came back. One by one each memory led to another like dominoes. I'd been second guessing and doubting whether my 20 yrs of marriage had been as abusive or as Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-80339552207303483362012-08-09T10:15:36.532-07:002012-08-09T10:15:36.532-07:00As I have learned more about this personality diso...As I have learned more about this personality disorder, I think it is definately possible to be sucked in by these type people more than once! They seem to either prey on weak and vulnerable people OR the people that seem a challenge for them. They thrive on games. They like them and play them as a way of life. They plan their pursuit, only with the intention of ruining another person. It is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-26017969110190191872012-08-05T22:33:02.558-07:002012-08-05T22:33:02.558-07:00I was married to a narcissist for 20yrs, had been ...I was married to a narcissist for 20yrs, had been divorced for 3 years and landed another one. Wow, how did I get into that again? This last relationship lasted almost 2 years. These post have been very helpful for me in helping to deal with the feelings that I am having, Thank you to all who have posted, it really does help to know I am not the only one. But just for everybody to understand, if Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-83557799783338534212012-07-20T10:52:26.647-07:002012-07-20T10:52:26.647-07:00Thank you for this site. My experience with a marr...Thank you for this site. My experience with a married N who also happened to be my pastor continues to show me the reality of EVIL. A year of my life and my family's life was nothing more than that of a horror story. Unimaginable. I was to blame... this is his lame explanation. I still struggle. I need counseling and I plan to get it soon. The imaginary relationship has been "over" Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-31352913286370985632012-07-11T07:28:30.456-07:002012-07-11T07:28:30.456-07:00I stumbled upon this website tonight and have been...I stumbled upon this website tonight and have been glued to it for the better part of the past 2 hours. As many others have said, it is eerie how similar (some almost identical) many of the posts on the site are to my experiences in my 2 long-term relationships with Ns…one my ex husband of 8 years (+ the 2 extra bonus years of separation in which he was drawing out our divorce process for as Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-11583850104300448062012-07-11T07:27:25.253-07:002012-07-11T07:27:25.253-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.mindminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16096606754000695183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-78232903345963935482012-06-11T21:30:32.775-07:002012-06-11T21:30:32.775-07:00Iam lost for words on how I feel ,do know what I f...Iam lost for words on how I feel ,do know what I feel is real ,all comments are real,I lived it for 6 yrs,with a man who not work not help support ,call me filthy names act as if my feelings had no value,he stay up all night on net so engrossed with himself ,he portray he some rich famous person,he laugh at me everytime I tried to talk to him on any level about his mouth his attitude ,lack of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-8527710128107245192012-05-18T22:49:05.832-07:002012-05-18T22:49:05.832-07:00after 14 years I recently found out I have been wi...after 14 years I recently found out I have been with a person with NPD. I feel like Alice in Wonderland, everywhere I look in the past has changed shape, colour, meaning and one by one his evil intentions unfold. I feel hurt in my soul and injured in my mind. Healing will take years, building carefully layer after layer to cover a huge wound. I regret so much this happened to me. Can't see Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-4764318729203639232012-05-09T06:05:13.425-07:002012-05-09T06:05:13.425-07:00This has been so helpful. I've only recently b...This has been so helpful. I've only recently brought up the notion that my ex has NPD to my therapist, and she has countered that I was obsessed with my ex. I am wondering if the manipulation and control that the NPD had over me can be equated with an addiction/obsession on my part. I have started to read a book on how to break an addiction to a person, and while I find some truth in what I&#hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15378380849525399819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-28512532218866002242012-02-09T02:04:51.917-08:002012-02-09T02:04:51.917-08:00Part2:
I did blame myself for being “stupid”, “naï...Part2:<br />I did blame myself for being “stupid”, “naïve”, “too trusting”, etc. and there is perhaps some truth in the naïve/too trusting part. I also had gone through the angst of analyzing my part in a failed relationship. Although I accept that no one is perfect, myself included, I realize now that I was manipulated by someone whom I believe has a P/NPD. I had been out of the dating world Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-12982288321581107252012-02-09T01:35:43.261-08:002012-02-09T01:35:43.261-08:00Part 1:
Hi: well ppl., I'm sure spending a lo...Part 1:<br />Hi: well ppl., I'm sure spending a lot of time reading these articles and posts! I'm seeing so many references to "bursting bubbles","filling in the gaps", "Jekyll and Hyde personality", "predator", etc. that there are bells ringing in my head. Also, I'm remembering how I had this feeling sometimes that the guy with whom I was Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-5016352990411134582012-01-23T05:13:06.074-08:002012-01-23T05:13:06.074-08:00Thank god for this site I was in a relationship wi...Thank god for this site I was in a relationship with a man on and off for 4 yrs I was totally besotted and thought he was too, we had a break last year but got back together in the summer I thought we had sorted everything out until one sunny monday he txt me and told me it was over. I was devastated and at first thought it was a joke, 6 months down the line I still aint seen him oh yeah he Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-35159452287464123922012-01-09T18:20:00.883-08:002012-01-09T18:20:00.883-08:00Thank you for comming forward and sharing your exp...Thank you for comming forward and sharing your experience.i found out two years ago now that my mother is narcisstic.. still im comming to terms with it and i have no idea what to do.. i have read countless articles on this.. i have already come to terms with the fact that she does not love me and isnt capable of love.. being the scapegoat child i spent years her turning people against me and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-50811222866622364872012-01-05T14:49:20.606-08:002012-01-05T14:49:20.606-08:00My friends and family have given up. I've left...My friends and family have given up. I've left a P/N over 20 times and always go back. This site and articles have given me knowledge I never knew was out there. Now I know other people are dealing with the same I feel stronger knowing people have come out the otherside. I will do my research and gradually separate myself and become independent once again. I will no longer be used as a mentalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com