tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post5839482795323555251..comments2023-06-01T06:18:53.975-07:00Comments on Narcissism Support Resources: Afterlife Without NarcissistsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14330003648158273927noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-53258965823576604952012-03-31T15:09:38.058-07:002012-03-31T15:09:38.058-07:00leaving it behind
I've read the posts and the...leaving it behind<br /><br />I've read the posts and they are all so sadly familiar. I've been involved with a Narcissist (although I don't really like labels) for nine years, married for four, hopefully I gain my freedom to move out and on within the next couple of months.<br /><br />I had plenty of warning signs before I married him but blinkered myself. I entered psychotherapy a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-63377001649634897552012-02-21T17:06:49.138-08:002012-02-21T17:06:49.138-08:00OMG. This is amazing. I never understood what was ...OMG. This is amazing. I never understood what was going on in my life, until I found this. I was just looking for resources to help me grief a broken relationship (why this break-up seems much harder than others I've had??), and I came across this. I started reading, and suddenly it all makes sense!!!! OMG again.<br /><br />I always knew my man was 'a bit' N, meaning that he likes to Katherinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-67914389779105397792012-02-14T04:13:50.516-08:002012-02-14T04:13:50.516-08:00Wow, hard to believe there are so many of us out t...Wow, hard to believe there are so many of us out there. Its been a week since my relationship with the man i was going to marry ended after 2yrs and 4months.<br />When i googled " how to get over a controlling relationship i came across this blog page.<br />After reading only a few blogs i realised how Narcissits my ex really was.<br />Its insane to think i was going to marry him. <br />I Life its betterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15714230020347713496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-58722236553082619092012-01-10T16:25:04.508-08:002012-01-10T16:25:04.508-08:00been 10 yrs since the narcissist left our life of ...been 10 yrs since the narcissist left our life of 25 yrs. The abuse was unlivable after he left as at the beginning I shunned him and his ego was wounded..then the evil came out and he tortured me for the next several years and drug out divorce til I had nothing left in me.He still is daily in my mind and I often wonder what I did to deserve my life destroyed by someone so cruel and cold. A Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-69125532792283167682011-12-31T15:19:37.491-08:002011-12-31T15:19:37.491-08:00I discovered I was in a relationship with a N only...I discovered I was in a relationship with a N only weeks ago, and feel compelled to write to thank you for your blog and posts. By educating myself in this short space of time I have resisted the urge to be in contact with him. In moments of weakness I log on to your blog (whether I'm at work, at a bus stop, in bed at 3am, anywhere) and I find great strength from the insightful words of a i_am_strongernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-24617139413390452492011-11-23T06:53:12.803-08:002011-11-23T06:53:12.803-08:00Katy (comment 11-1-11) or anyone please contact me...Katy (comment 11-1-11) or anyone please contact me directly.<br />kdrebelxt@yahoo.com<br /><br />Katy,<br />Your post could be my post! <br />You expressed what I feel and exactly what I am experiencing.<br />I'd love to chat directly with you.<br />KarenKarennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-19911369780085656142011-11-22T11:20:13.014-08:002011-11-22T11:20:13.014-08:00Vampire Spirit Suckers:
They find good people and ...Vampire Spirit Suckers:<br />They find good people and suck them dry. I like your description, "fried Brain".<br />After 20 years with this man, I am finally seeing the truth and on my way to happiness. <br />Thank you for your website.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-58969415068211368312011-11-01T08:15:46.994-07:002011-11-01T08:15:46.994-07:00After living in hell for almost 6 years with an N,...After living in hell for almost 6 years with an N, who became my husband, i am now really free for the first time. We had years of tumult, and then he even moved back and forth across the U.S. twice. I would get him to leave and then he always hooked me back. This time it is over; i am 2 months N free and feel stronger everyday. <br /> The PTSD I have been living with, of course is still Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04546406855007259011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-6467506506286117422011-10-26T20:43:52.714-07:002011-10-26T20:43:52.714-07:00The Malignant N that I was married to has left me ...The Malignant N that I was married to has left me in hell! Isolated, disconec and has used every resource I made available for him! Im left in financial ruin! Its really hard not be bitter and angry and it seems to be getting harder and harder for me to forgive myself. I NEVER felt anything from him! When Id question it , it wiuld get so twisted I felt bad about something I hadnt even done? I dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08974815250331948998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-57427267272862655112011-04-04T13:43:43.634-07:002011-04-04T13:43:43.634-07:00I was reading some information about the DNA chang...I was reading some information about the DNA changes that occur in people like myself that have had the experience of severe abuse in early childhood and was searching for information about being attracted to N types when I came across a study of pheromone attraction in survivors of abuse to N type personality pheromones.<br /> "Shit." I said to myself, but then I thought about it and OnceSmittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02749777219100400505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-68221359015951548912011-04-04T13:07:31.056-07:002011-04-04T13:07:31.056-07:00Grieving the end of a relationship with a narcissi...Grieving the end of a relationship with a narcissist and knowing they believed themselves to be performing as the best kind of partner is pretty strange. This is the disconnection from the rest of the human race that occurs with this type of disorder, though, and really illustrates the inability, not refusal but true inability to experience empathy that they experience. I have found in my OnceSmittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02749777219100400505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-4441297421399711922011-04-03T14:07:53.760-07:002011-04-03T14:07:53.760-07:00It's been 4 months since the death of my N hus...It's been 4 months since the death of my N husband, who by the way passed away 1 month before our divorce is finalized. Before his death, he was with a girlfriend and realized it's not doing to work and wants to come back to me but 4 hours after our telephone conversation he died tragically from an automobile accident. After 22 years of marriage, 2 children and more memory of abuse, I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-30847244122304751652011-03-20T17:40:54.068-07:002011-03-20T17:40:54.068-07:00Thank you! WOW! I'm not alone? I married a
Ma...Thank you! WOW! I'm not alone? I married a <br />Malignant Narcissistic. On 1-1-2011, he had me jailed for domestic violence because I slapped his laptop to the floor. Bench trial found me Not Guilty, so now he blames my one witness is a liar. He filed divorce & says that I filed first. His current demands for my return reads like a contract to slavery. He took all the money, cut off Original13https://www.blogger.com/profile/10522868389158347218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-53474579548597315652011-03-05T19:57:01.006-08:002011-03-05T19:57:01.006-08:00If there is a text book example required for a nar...If there is a text book example required for a narcistic relationship it would be mine. I met this man while working in my store and him requiring an aptmt which I was offering for rent. At the time I was very down and was contemplating divorce. The n drank and would show up for a chat in the afternoons. My soul fell for him and fell in love. He charmed me with gifts and I succombed to every Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-67281889957846917862011-01-13T02:35:31.491-08:002011-01-13T02:35:31.491-08:00Tonight was the first time I found your blog, and ...Tonight was the first time I found your blog, and I intend to print, read, and highlight your notes to help myself out of my own horrible situation with a narcissistic mother. This has been a long time coming, and I am more than ready to separate myself from her psychopathy.<br /><br />Thank you for having the courage - and for taking the time - to share your experiences with others. I have been Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-53853305732798427982010-10-31T19:36:28.577-07:002010-10-31T19:36:28.577-07:00http://www.huffingtonpost.com/judith-acosta-lisw-c...http://www.huffingtonpost.com/judith-acosta-lisw-cht/nice-but-not-good-the-art_b_772965.html<br /><br />The Huffington Post has a great article on spotting N'sAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-70649101127136962172010-10-28T07:36:48.266-07:002010-10-28T07:36:48.266-07:00Hello. I am asking for permission to quote a few o...Hello. I am asking for permission to quote a few of your statements in your blog. Can you please email me at Randi at BPDCentral.com? Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-80310176909184862702010-09-11T10:19:17.656-07:002010-09-11T10:19:17.656-07:00Been married to an N for 25 years now. Never met ...Been married to an N for 25 years now. Never met anyone like him and now I wish I hadn't. I was so naive and trusting. I have kids to raise so have been waiting till the last one finishes school (3 more years). For years I thought it was all my fault, that i was overly sensitive, etc. Then his mother stayed with us for a summer and it woke me up. Also therapy for the last 2 years (whichAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-62143477884752343562010-08-16T10:06:56.450-07:002010-08-16T10:06:56.450-07:00I love your information! Thanks so much. I am a ...I love your information! Thanks so much. I am a survivor of severe abuse and have been treated inpatient and out for complex PTSD but was never given any information about the kinds of people I would be drawn to for intimate relationships and had to glean the Internet for years to find information about NPD and psychopaths. I'm 27 years sober and every intimate relationship I've had OnceSmittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02749777219100400505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-67477181951749147492010-08-04T05:35:01.833-07:002010-08-04T05:35:01.833-07:00Thank you for posting this. It has been over 3 yea...Thank you for posting this. It has been over 3 years since I was in a relationship with a Narcissist. I spent a year in turmoil and was, like you, going through a divorce and my son battling the court system, and my other son sick with a heart condition when I became his next victim. He raped my soul, my mind, my body -before meeting him, I was ambitious, strong-willed, supermom -for lack of a MelissaWnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-32706351571222717682010-07-28T18:19:13.368-07:002010-07-28T18:19:13.368-07:00hi, i have been with a narcissist for 14 years, an...hi, i have been with a narcissist for 14 years, and i am just seeing the truth for about 3 months. i live for the day i will not have to have the life sucked out of me, and i will be able to retain my energy for myself. thank you for your site, it is like air for me to breathe. my story is on my blog.followerhttp://follower-followyoufollowme.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-48869042135585961872010-06-19T19:55:45.537-07:002010-06-19T19:55:45.537-07:00First I would like to say that I am ever so gratef...First I would like to say that I am ever so grateful that I found this blog. If ever anything has "hit the nail on the head" so precisely it has been here. I am almost two months out of my N relationship and I feel as though I have been set free! I will be honest in saying that my entire relationship was nothing short of being an emotional war zone or as I read here an emotional Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-40297109590631068872010-06-06T11:13:18.499-07:002010-06-06T11:13:18.499-07:00Part 2 goes to one viable way to manage what we fa...Part 2 goes to one viable way to manage what we face under that rock when the time comes that we have to do so. It is what I am using and it has been of benefit. What's under there is shattering and each memory that exemplified the inhumanity can make one sick. Scott Peck wrote a book about narcissism, The Road Less Traveled, that admonished anyone to encounter it to run.. run for their Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-43346739030127478392010-06-06T11:12:20.690-07:002010-06-06T11:12:20.690-07:00Skip to the second part if the first part gives yo...Skip to the second part if the first part gives you the "queesies"... <br />Part 1:What's under the rock? Apart from the practical and honorable reasons that we stay too long, there is the understandable reason that we do it to not face what is under the rock. There sits inhumanity in its various ugly forms and thats a mind/soul bender to face (down). To hope for a turnaround that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-58686026331812954522010-04-28T19:30:02.556-07:002010-04-28T19:30:02.556-07:00OMG! Invicta, you just spoke to my life, I was a c...OMG! Invicta, you just spoke to my life, I was a child of a Narcissistic mother. My husband (soon to be EX) is a narcissist as well. I was in a constant state of emotional stress, confusion, anxiety, anger, and resentment. We've been married for almost 7 years and I've been unhappy with him all that time. It took me a long time to accept that the issue was with him. I convinced myself Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com