tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post8135838459876314688..comments2023-06-01T06:18:53.975-07:00Comments on Narcissism Support Resources: Loving Narcissists and the Myth of No ContactAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14330003648158273927noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-38080135113602117642015-06-09T13:37:31.888-07:002015-06-09T13:37:31.888-07:00Thanks for this post. At a very pressing time of m...Thanks for this post. At a very pressing time of my life, separation after abuse, my father very ill, etc, this new guy told me that he would love me forever, every day for the rest of his life, almost with aggression he repeated this; we (he) put up a love locker on a bridge, etc Only two months after that, he just left (two weeks after my father died). He didn't even make a phone call; he Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-60484842870372087262015-05-27T14:50:17.863-07:002015-05-27T14:50:17.863-07:00Been No Contact for 6 months now. Haven't even...Been No Contact for 6 months now. Haven't even seen him. Know nothing about him - no friends in common, and I cut out going to the only place I would ever see him. <br /><br />It goes in cycles. I miss him terribly at times. Then I remember the worst thing he did - a TV show reminded me of it tonight - I have to keep telling myself about that thing, because it showed he was physically Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-37394151136174715682015-01-27T06:48:11.211-08:002015-01-27T06:48:11.211-08:00I went through a very similar pain. I tried to kil...I went through a very similar pain. I tried to kill myself feeling trapped and hopeless. He joked about it later and still I went back. Helped him clean his room while he ate and looked for a movie. I was so hurt. I wanted revenge too! So bad! But the more I'm away, the less he matters. I matter more. To me. I am learning to live for me. To remind myself of who I was. Not just before him but a free birdnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-75799240761047411392015-01-27T06:34:46.816-08:002015-01-27T06:34:46.816-08:00Trust me dear, trust your feelings! Your biggest r...Trust me dear, trust your feelings! Your biggest red flag: confusion. This is the first clue a Narc has gotten hold of your mind somehow. Fog! Second clue: Your friends are equally as clear as you are confused by his communique. The way in which he chooses to communicate. Vague, yet if you translate the answer is there. Vaguely. This is how Narc's operate. Everyone gets them. Except the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-40450510733216458442014-08-22T07:15:55.397-07:002014-08-22T07:15:55.397-07:00These people are so FARKED up !!! They just keep c...These people are so FARKED up !!! They just keep coming at you, and coming at you. Just for a little ahh I'm alive !!! I'm getting a restraining order out on Tuesday. My ex N stormed in my house to pick up the rest of his property didn't even knock and then asked me do you mind if I take my stuff ?? Its yours isn't it you idiot lol. He then came in the living area just stood thereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-28130924655914854422012-11-20T05:11:03.933-08:002012-11-20T05:11:03.933-08:00I have never think that the way in what some of my...I have never think that the way in what some of my friends behave is called narcissism and it is a desease!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02039321583445954843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-39010797430164488822012-11-13T16:07:15.269-08:002012-11-13T16:07:15.269-08:00NC is the ONLY way. The N in my life WAS my M****...NC is the ONLY way. The N in my life WAS my M****r. Yes, she is alive...but she WAS as far as I am concerned. She is beyond a N; she is a Psychopath; she has likely killed two people, and has tried to kill me. I caution everyone: the memories that you WANT to have never were. They were lies...you so wanted the N/P to be something worthy of you...and they never were and never will be. Get aAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-51945119385410300692012-08-29T09:23:13.477-07:002012-08-29T09:23:13.477-07:00I know this was posted a long time ago and I'm...I know this was posted a long time ago and I'm not sure if you are even still following but I have just found this and I so completely relate. Your statement..." part of me did not want to give up hope and kept thinking i could reach him through all the layers of his sickness"...this is where I'm at right now. Because occasionally he has let me see what lies beneath and what it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-40243398341990243522012-08-25T08:19:46.281-07:002012-08-25T08:19:46.281-07:00Disengaging from a narcissist, whether physically ...Disengaging from a narcissist, whether physically or emotionally, is indeed a process. Not only do we, the survivors, learn about narcissism through first-hand experience, we also learn quite a bit about ourselves.<br /><br />For those of us who have remained with our narcissist, the question is, why do we stay? There are many reasons and they all have to do with our own insecurities: Fear of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-16171356575717159392012-08-19T00:31:14.441-07:002012-08-19T00:31:14.441-07:00This statement -- "...now you have a real cho...This statement -- "...now you have a real choice in a way you never had when your mind and emotions were held in thrall while being expertly and methodically raped." says so much. This kind of abuse is psychological rape and absolutely a violent act.<br /><br />For me, every contact, even such small things as seeing his handwriting, sets my brain spinning into confusion and doubt. I Janienne Jennrichhttp://www.squidoo.com/i-did-not-see-i-was-being-abused-by-my-husbandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-62929929002301158242012-08-16T12:23:32.470-07:002012-08-16T12:23:32.470-07:00Why am I SO WEAK, I Can't leave and whenever h...Why am I SO WEAK, I Can't leave and whenever he says he will leave I have a panic attack so bad I almost start vomiting.<br />I used to be so strong and would never have put up with this and supported a man financially like this<br />Wow, I need serious help, but nowhere to turn to.<br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-76686739986269134002012-05-31T18:18:20.287-07:002012-05-31T18:18:20.287-07:00I am so glad to have found this site. I have not ...I am so glad to have found this site. I have not really spoken to anyone about this because like some of the previous posts say, people really just don't understand. If my scars were on the outside I would not be recognizable. It took me 12 years and there are kids involved to realize what I was dealing with. The question for me was always how could someone do that ,hurt, someone else Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-15487557525851971242012-04-27T07:33:48.218-07:002012-04-27T07:33:48.218-07:00I dated my male narcissist for 6 months. He propos...I dated my male narcissist for 6 months. He proposed marriage within 1 month but I did not give an answer as I told him we didn't know each other well enough. Within 4 months I was quite in love but also suspected that he was sleeping with other women which he denied. When I found irrefutable evidence of at least 5 other women he was/had slept with, his excuse was that he is a man and JKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-22188668446033474582012-03-12T03:23:14.469-07:002012-03-12T03:23:14.469-07:00I left the N for good almost a year ago. I took an...I left the N for good almost a year ago. I took an overdose of pain meds because I could no longer cope. I ended up in the hospital and its taken alot of therapy and support from family and friends but I am on the other side of the madness now and doing very well. I was with him for over 3 years off and on and the craziness finally ended. He was horrible and vile and I can see that now. Its takenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-88384571589315715902012-03-12T01:44:55.235-07:002012-03-12T01:44:55.235-07:00I think some people deserve revenge. Like these us...I think some people deserve revenge. Like these users. I'm sick to death with doing the right thing, when none of these people did. Yet for some reason that was ok? They didn't care about screwing me over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-25655786581016767582012-03-12T01:42:33.353-07:002012-03-12T01:42:33.353-07:00I'll never forgive him or these two faced shee...I'll never forgive him or these two faced sheep that took his side. I've heard of similar bizarre breakups, yet the friends didn't take the cheaters side. I don't think his sheep friends should be so smug and arrogant. It might be them one day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-85356452859130964102012-03-12T01:39:25.270-07:002012-03-12T01:39:25.270-07:00I had no choice but go NC. I was dumped and insult...I had no choice but go NC. I was dumped and insulted by text after a year. I never cheated and was a good gf. My ex verbally abused me by text and refused to grow some balls and be a man. He turned everyone against me. I was suicidal and yet he was probably screwing someone else. Yet everyone still took his side. I can't understand how someone can be such an asshole, yet be so popular. I was Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-89170981552836660812011-10-20T17:55:23.238-07:002011-10-20T17:55:23.238-07:00whole idea that I could have a real relationship f...whole idea that I could have a real relationship filled with love, respect and hope for the future. All I need to say is the normal...he turned on me in the most vile and viscious way,left for several days and I asked him to move out...he already had lined up his NS...he tried to act hurt but he really orchestrated the whole thing... He probably believes that I was dumb enough to fall for that DeBorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15211106650849498896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-54289320156533307162011-10-20T17:41:14.289-07:002011-10-20T17:41:14.289-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.DeBorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15211106650849498896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-22815983827315868912011-10-20T07:45:17.371-07:002011-10-20T07:45:17.371-07:00i was decidedly looking for a more complex approac...i was decidedly looking for a more complex approach to dealing with narcissists. "they are bad" is only half of the equation. the other half is about yourself. most people dont want to self introspect on a deeper level. i have sympathy for that. for me, the way was to engage fully and let myself be transformed. I am a stubborn controlling individual and I feel that probably only someoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-8975228077249348662011-08-30T05:15:12.156-07:002011-08-30T05:15:12.156-07:00I am still in tears after reading your blog. Than...I am still in tears after reading your blog. Thank you SO VERY MUCH for helping me find some peace in the obtuse chaos that I have been attempting to resolve for 6 solid months now. <br /><br />It's amazingly beautiful how much I truly care about people- I work to help someone in need until I pass out apparently. No more, now that I can tell the difference between the the ones who care ingwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03111154651117501887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-24970252563000825582011-08-20T08:35:17.773-07:002011-08-20T08:35:17.773-07:00Wow, I am blown away by how accurately this post d...Wow, I am blown away by how accurately this post describes my current feelings toward my (who I believe is a) narcissistic mother. I am currently in the grief stage, reading everything I can on narcissism and crying my eyes out as I recall so many subtle and not-so subtle moments, allowing my feelings to come up. At this point I am totally repulsed by her and can no longer bear her negativity. I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-74000476912950692332011-08-02T10:21:35.112-07:002011-08-02T10:21:35.112-07:00I have been in a very short relation with a person...I have been in a very short relation with a person who surely showed out to be a narcissist but also a sadistic psychopath... somehow. And believe me I got twisted like a bee that got honey. And he was the sweetest dearest until he took his turn. Deeply sexually twisted (even though we had great sex, or I did at least in the beginning) Reassuring me I was god att nothing, dress, makeup, cooking, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-13507318024745937542011-04-25T23:20:12.438-07:002011-04-25T23:20:12.438-07:00What do you do when the narcissist is your identic...What do you do when the narcissist is your identical twin sister, and there is no chance of "no contact" how do you basically get them to hear the word NO and not be manipulated all the time. My mom has fibromyalgia now and is getting sick from all the stress she adds to her house on top of 3 thirty something girls living with her, and our 12 animals combined! Help!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07770803920011430404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1461367031084175533.post-12066505135176751792011-02-20T19:20:51.753-08:002011-02-20T19:20:51.753-08:00I'm jealous that everyone can clearly explain ...I'm jealous that everyone can clearly explain their situation. I feel I was involved with a N (Internet romance).<br /><br />His emails confused and frustrated me so much, but when other people read the emails, they say, "How is this confusing? He answered your questions clearly, I think."<br /><br />That is the most frustrating part because it makes me doubt whether I was involved Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com