I did not know I was seduced, except in retrospect. Did you know? He was charming, but I knew it and resisted it. He got to me with purity, though, this psychoGAYguy.
Did you know there are many ways to seduce that are not obvious and not always romantic? Seducers aren't always "bad boys". They can also represent themselves as "saints" or "healers" or "helpers"; they can be a man or a woman who is indifferent to your gender, and it doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship. Some are charismatic, some are "wounded", or a melange. All make you feel a singular object of concern and care,so special.
And before you know it , you feel all warm and fuzzy (that's the power of charm), full of fire and desire -it doesn't matter what the object is- they give us dreams and for a while, reflect them. Meanwhile, your most cherished beliefs become challenges, and the awful dissonance creeps in and begins to settle.
But by then they have hard-wired you to them- as those words of grace and warm gesture and song, all great knowledge and spirit turn to sharp, convoluted sheaths of steel. You have learned to exist in a camp that concentrates only on them, for your heart, psyche, spirit, have become barb-wired.
Do you see your reflection?
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The Seductive Process
Phase One: Separation
Stirring Interest and Desire
2 Create a False Sense of Security-Approach Indirectly
3 Send Mixed Signals....
6 Master the Art of Insinuation
7 Enter Their Spirit
8 Create Temptation
Phase Two: Lead Astray
Creating Pleasure and Confusion
9 Keep them in Suspense-What comes next?
10 Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion
13 Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability
14 Isolate the Victim
Phase Three: The Precipice
Deepening the Effect Through Extreme Measures
16 Prove Yourself
19 Use Spiritual Lures
20 Mix Pleasure with Pain
Phase Four: Moving In for the Kill
21 Give Them Space to Fall- The Pursuer is Pursued
22 Use Physical Lures
24 Beware the Aftereffects: ....
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5 comments:
Oh wow ... my husband has this book. He is also a psychology major and a narcissist, and I have been totally stripped.
My ex has this book, I found it in our house one time under the bed. Of course back then I was a little puzzled as to why he had a book like that. AFter we broke up, and the events that took place after, I googled the book to see what it was about and it literally put the fear of God in me. It all made sense now. Everything.
Omg,,,,,exactly what I am going throughout to the exact plan....he is at the phase iv inflicting pain, absence....thank you God for leading me here. Damn it hurts!!!!
I have to respond to this...I just broke up with a narcissist. We've been together for just a few months but it's clear to me that even if he hasn't read this book, he was using the same techniques. He was so charming at first, and seemed so caring and genuine and warm. He made me feel like I was the most important woman in the world. The ways he could read my body language and anticipate my needs almost before I was aware of them, the way he made me feel so feminine and romantic, the incredible sex...all of these things kept me coming back despite the fact that we had serious arguments almost from the first day of the relationship.
But the mask began to slip more often as we spent increasing amounts of time together, and it didn't take very long for me to realize that this man has serious psychological problems and is dangerous to my mental health.
Despite my understanding of how toxic our relationship was, and how crazy and inadequate he made me feel, it hurts not to call him and beg him to take me back. I broke up with him but I feel like he left me. He hasn't called or tried to contact me once since I asked him to leave my home after he raged at me in front of my children. In some ways that hurts most of all: that he let me go. Isn't that twisted?
I'm starting therapy soon to figure out why I was such an easy target for this man.
@ healing slowly...they know you better than we know ourselves...they make you think you are the "special" one they have searched their entire life for...and we melt into that role of "special" with all our trust of mind and body...and all my life's saving account went as well...I wonder if we had the same N?? He just recently keeps trying to reconnect since the beginning of March...also with another girl but she has no idea of what he is and she was at suicidal level when he reconnected. I fear for her when he abandons her again as he has a tortured wife at home he keeps under his control...the N/psycho path words are a narcotic as they rape your soul
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