This is what untutored online "experts" specialising in "Narcissism" and "Psychopathy"say:
Our recovery is long. Difficult. We learn about NPs and as we journey
along, we learn a lot about ourselves. We usually take 2-4 years in
revovery in the 'normal' situations. That's for the strongest of us. Anyone
with dependency issues is going to take longer.
The above profile of the victimised is not supported by anything known to psychology. By what authority does the poster make these assertions, when the poster has absolutely no background in psychology?
1. It is assumed that co-dependency is a reality for the victimised which means that, in effect, they have enabled their own abuse.
2. Nurturing is perceived as a flaw, extreme. This view implies that we are "N-magnets" attracting those who want to be cared for and that we can't help ourselves in caring for them.
3. "Echo Personality Disorder" does not exist. It is not even a gleam in the eyes of the psychiatrists who make up the DSMs. Nor are Dependent Personality Disorder and this ignorant excuse for revictimising the victims (Echo PD) interchangeable as constructs (if EPD were, indeed, a valid construct).
4. "masochism traits are not uncommon" on NPD forums and websites? This has far reaching and potentially damaging implications for the victimised and how they perceive themselves. I'd like to see the research and stats on this. And by what authority does this poster make this assertion?
5. What is an "NP"? There is no such psychological construct known to any legitimate mental health practitioner.
6. It is a statistical fact that anyone recovering from a break up, especially a divorce, will need about 2 years to recover. How is this different for survivors, if the unsupported statement about recovery time is true?
Imo, caveat emptor,/i., "let the buyer beware"
I, personally would not want to entrust my psyche to someone unaccountable for their words. Someone who tells us how defective we are. Someone who operates from ignorance.
This kind of stuff is more likely to instill apprehension about ourselves and about others, and it does impede true healing, IMO. It's a prime example of pathologising the victim.
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