Unplugging Borderline Personality Disorder
I find mythologising pretty rampant on the internet. And Real Life is no exception.
When I was in graduate school, the prof I esteemed most, happened to be a Professor of Psychiatry. He taught the class in Abnormal Psych. This is what he had to say about Borderline Personality Disorder: that it was a "garbage can" label for a cluster of behaviours that did not seem to fit the established categories. In his estimation, Borderline Personality Disorder described adolescent behaviour at most. And I think it takes a lifetime to grow up anyway.
Here is a link that addresses this very issue and why BPD has mushroomed into a thriving business trafficking in women's psyches once again. And I've observed that guru wannabes on the net in their "support" groups are milking it for all it's worth along with 'co-dependency', in effect pathologizing normal people. Read it and weep. Your very justified and valid tears and emotions may be used against you. ~Invicta 01/03
For another view from those labelled BPD, & from self-harmers: LABELEDAddendum, 02.02.09: I see that the term "hoovering" has crept into internet support communities. As I recall, it was begun by the same opportunist/guru wannabe who saturates the web with support groups, femfree. There is no such term in the psychological lexicon. You will not find it in any legitimate studies. Your therapist would be bewildered by its use. It's a term to describe getting sucked back in, the latter being an adequate term without the pretentious psychobabble, and without the fabricated explanation. It makes the vulnerable targets of these net predators look like fools. It is better to read an authoritative book or seek counselling than to be sucked into looking totally ridiculous. Makes people look like cult members, with their own cultspeak, IMO.
More here: The Myth of "Hoovering"